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I canāt say enough about a good loft. Ideally this is a large under-furnished-little-bit-industrial-a-little-bit-abandoned room for your unfettered thoughts and creativity to bounce around freely. I recently found one in downtown Los Angeles, and itās changed everything for me.. As someone who has always worked from home, I typically turned my home into a work space. This made any sort of healthy relationship with another person impossible - either Iād give in to their demands and stop making art or functioning, or I would break up with them. Iām very happy with my love/work balance now. I get that lofts are expensive, and with gas prices what they are - all Iām saying is, if you find a loft, and you treat it well, youāll never need to get gas again.
Mar 17, 2022
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š If you live in an expensive, desirable place like New York City or Key Largo, try swapping apartments with a young freelancer in a Tier 4 city who probably lives in a massive loft. For free. Put your performative Airbnb guilt to good useātake a midcation!
Apr 19, 2023
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šmy partner and i were presented with the opportunity to move into a friendās slightly larger and more amenitied apartment up the block, but weād have to break our lease to do so lol
listed our apartment on facebook marketplace to see if anyone was interested in signing the lease so we could move, essentially just putting out feelers and seeing what happened. did not expect to receive dozens upon dozens of messages! i scheduled tours and showed like six people around, all of whom were like where can i sign! and i called our landlord twice.
met with the landlord of the new place and got the paperworkā¦.. truly in the final stepsā¦. only to get home and realize, you know what,,, weāre staying here! and it was literally such a relief to say it.
did it take hundreds of messages from people begging for me to leave my apartment to truly viscerally process that iāve got a good thing? perhaps!
but i think it was more that i had been in a scarcity mindset of like, āwhen we move and i have more space iāll be able toā¦ make the art i want; really feel at home; feel more comfortable; etc.ā and when i really dug into those feelings about it, i simply knew that my home right now presents a growth opportunity to work creatively with the space i have.
didnāt want to admit to myself that i was in that space of forcing things because i initially just wanted to move so badly, i was literally bypassing my felt experience and like, true reactions.
i also felt like it fell into our laps and was this once-in-a-lifetime thing. but really trying to now reinforce that a two bedroom w a dishwasher, balcony, and some bedrooms that look out onto the neighborsā walls is not inimitable. and i want to approach this process from a space where im resourced and generally tranquil.
so iām happy and iām not moving and im going to buy myself an $8 latte this morning to celebrate!!!!
listed our apartment on facebook marketplace to see if anyone was interested in signing the lease so we could move, essentially just putting out feelers and seeing what happened. did not expect to receive dozens upon dozens of messages! i scheduled tours and showed like six people around, all of whom were like where can i sign! and i called our landlord twice.
met with the landlord of the new place and got the paperworkā¦.. truly in the final stepsā¦. only to get home and realize, you know what,,, weāre staying here! and it was literally such a relief to say it.
did it take hundreds of messages from people begging for me to leave my apartment to truly viscerally process that iāve got a good thing? perhaps!
but i think it was more that i had been in a scarcity mindset of like, āwhen we move and i have more space iāll be able toā¦ make the art i want; really feel at home; feel more comfortable; etc.ā and when i really dug into those feelings about it, i simply knew that my home right now presents a growth opportunity to work creatively with the space i have.
didnāt want to admit to myself that i was in that space of forcing things because i initially just wanted to move so badly, i was literally bypassing my felt experience and like, true reactions.
i also felt like it fell into our laps and was this once-in-a-lifetime thing. but really trying to now reinforce that a two bedroom w a dishwasher, balcony, and some bedrooms that look out onto the neighborsā walls is not inimitable. and i want to approach this process from a space where im resourced and generally tranquil.
so iām happy and iām not moving and im going to buy myself an $8 latte this morning to celebrate!!!!
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š§ I work three jobs and am getting my BA part time. I have hobbies, friends, and an active social appetite. Iām also subject to the 24 hour day. Sometimes that doesnāt really feel doable.
in the middle of winter, you can get an Airbnb in Burlington Vermont for $30 a night. itās a small room, a bed, a window. Shared kitchen, both spare and kitschy (a notable achievement I feel). though I canāt afford to leave all that often, this is how I do it. I go for 5ish days, I sleep a lot, I eat well enough, I read and write a lot because I feel like I can really unload. it is so quiet, and if you wanted to go somewhere at night you could, but youāll find you rarely want to. When I got off the train in Burlington it was snowing and the snow stuck to everything, even the asphalt and I just started laughing maniacally in an empty parking lot.
in the middle of winter, you can get an Airbnb in Burlington Vermont for $30 a night. itās a small room, a bed, a window. Shared kitchen, both spare and kitschy (a notable achievement I feel). though I canāt afford to leave all that often, this is how I do it. I go for 5ish days, I sleep a lot, I eat well enough, I read and write a lot because I feel like I can really unload. it is so quiet, and if you wanted to go somewhere at night you could, but youāll find you rarely want to. When I got off the train in Burlington it was snowing and the snow stuck to everything, even the asphalt and I just started laughing maniacally in an empty parking lot.
Jun 18, 2024
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š©øNow that you've deleted your patreon, rented a loft, had a couple kids, and stopped posting online - the next best thing you can do is to try skipping dinner sometimes. This is not a pro ano post by any means, I've just found that skipping dinner actually gives you a super focused and a little radicalized spin on the normal stuff. Maybe it's because most people stuff their faces and go to sleep, but for me skipping dinner when I can - makes me feel way more alive and present. Yes, I know that's fucked up for some people and maybe even unhealthy - but I am not a trained medical practionioner, I just find feeling hungry in all ways, always yields a more interesting result.
Mar 17, 2022
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šµThis isnāt to say earning money is bad. Itās very good. Iāve built a career around earning in a lot of different ways. But for me, the ever present capital layer buried in how we package and put ourselves out online, well - kind of ruined why I enjoyed doing it in the first place. I never wanted a full time job, I never wanted to be owned by anyone. Something about having a patreon (it was small, but large enough that I felt, well, owned) was getting in the way of me enjoying the act of making shit. Itās beautiful that online stuff can generate life sustaining income. I just think, we should be making stuff more freely, or just - without the impulse to constantly package and sell ourselves to an audience. Itās gross, and itās bad for the art. Demonetize yourself once n' a while, play games, and be wrong and upset people more.Ā There's nothing to lose when there's nothing to lose!
Mar 17, 2022
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šOne of my favorite playwrights of all time (just behind my dear friend Polly Stenham, who first introduced me to her work)Ā - her book of complete plays (Blasted, Phaedraās Love, Cleansed, Crave, 4.48 Psychosis, and Skin) is everything I love about music, films, really anything. Thereās something about reading playsĀ that allows my brain to process and experience the work differently - itās a crazy thrill to read her,, especially Blasted. Itās intense to the bone stuff. She also made a short film for Skin in 1997 just before hanging herself in 1999.
Mar 17, 2022